As I look back over my more than 50 years, I can see how I’ve always been eager to call for a ‘Do-Over!’ And I know I’m not alone. Women today are reinventing themselves with a frequency and intensity that could hardly be imagined by our mothers’ generation.
Besides my own Do-Overs!, I’ve had the privilege of coaching so many fabulous women who are reinventing themselves. In the process, I’ve had the opportunity to observe the common pitfalls. If you’re planning your own Do-Over! for the new year, take care to steer clear of these traps:
1. Confused Purpose
These days, it’s common to read or hear about a heroic woman who has quit her job to start a non-profit and save the world. That’s certainly admirable, but it’s not for everyone. Don’t insist on finding a grand purpose that isn’t yours, just because you think you “should.” Make it authentic. Purpose isn’t just about doing something. It’s also about being someone.
2. Insufficient Passion
Similarly, you’ve got to find what’s really yours to love, even if the rest of the world doesn’t value it. No one gave a hoot about French cooking in America before Julia Child decided to share her passion for it. A Do-Over! challenges us to the core, so you need to have passion in abundance to get through the rough patches.
3. Poor Planning
You can’t wing a Do-Over! Big or small, it needs to be thought-through ahead of time. Not only do you need to consider the pragmatics of change, but you also need to consider how you will handle the push-back you’re likely to get from your family, friends, or co- workers.