‘What should I do?’

Ann Daly PhD: life coach, speaker, authorIt’s a familiar question for a coach: “What should I do?” As a coach, it’s not my purpose to give advice.  It’s my purpose to help my clients learn how to make confident decisions and take effective action.

So, when I hear this question, I respond in kind, by asking three questions. Try them when you’re unsure what to do:

1.  What is my main goal in this situation?
2.  Given my main goal, what are my top two or three options?
3.  Among my options, which is the best?

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3 Responses to ‘What should I do?’

  1. Susan Ekins November 25, 2013 at 4:13 pm #

    I’ve been coached a few times, and I agree with your statement “It’s not my purpose to give advice.” It’s much more effective when a coach prods the client to make their own decisions. You’ve listed good suggestions. Sometimes we just need to focus and ask ourselves such questions.

    • Ann Daly November 25, 2013 at 6:09 pm #

      Thanks for the response, Susan. I gotta say, it’s one of the significant challenges for a coach not to jump and and “solve” the problem sometimes. “Prodding,” as you eloquently point out, is a coach’s stock-in-trade! Not sexy, not quick, sometimes annoying, and effective. My vision is for each client to become her own coach–to know when to breathe and ask herself the questions that will clarify her situation. Wishing you a bountiful Thanksgiving, Susan.

  2. Stephanie December 22, 2013 at 8:33 pm #

    I agree. When a coach has prompted me to answer the question at hand, it gave me clarity. At times of just not being able to come up with an answer, the coach then continued to ask additional questions.