Are You Micromanaging Yourself?
Steven DeMaio posed this question in his “I Quit — Now What” blog. It resonated with me, especially after the mini-retreat I held on Saturday.
There we were, a bunch of overachieving women struggling to cross off even a few of the items we listed as our routine activities and commitments. I had to laugh when one women talked about teaching her husband how to fold towels. I tried that once myself, but I’m older and hopefully wiser now. I’m lucky to have a husband who does occasionally fold the towels, however offensive the results may be to my sense of order and aesthetics.
As DeMaio points out, micromanaging has its place. When stuff absolutely, positively has to be done, there’s no better strategy.
But in most cases, we’re micromanaging out of habit. And maybe a wee sense of over-control. That’s where DeMaio’s point # 1 comes into play: Don’t lose sight of the big picture.
The point of folding towels is to prepare them for their next use and store them conveniently. That’s it. If they’re lumpy, it doesn’t matter.
So when you find yourself overwhelmed with the little stuff, take a breath and consider the big picture. Do you need to control this activity? How much does it really matter? From the 50,000 foot view, how much difference does this make to the health and happiness of you and your family?
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