How to quit the “should” habit

clarity coaching | AnnDaly.comHow often do you find yourself saying, or thinking, “I should do X?” Several years ago I realized how often I used that phrase, and how powerful were its implications. Where does “should” come from? I wanted to take ownership of my life choices, large and small. “Should’s” weren’t good enough.

Since then, I have successfully purged the word from my vocabulary, both on my lips and in my head. The result? I don’t do anything, or plan to do anything, that isn’t meaningful to me. I get to define how I spend my hours and my days – and my life.

If you’re up for it, here are some of the substitute phrasings you can use to take back control:

  1. I want to do X.
  2. X is my best option.
  3. I prefer to do X.
  4. I will do X.
  5. X is on my list of things to do.
  6. I am considering doing X.
  7. I will do X by [when].
  8. Doing X is a priority for me.
  9. It’s best to do X before doing Y and Z.
  10. Doing X is an important step to accomplishing Y.

Try it! And let me know how it works.

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