My favorite thing on Facebook comes from Gay Norton Edelman: her “Just for today” posts are loving self-reminders about how to keep present. It’s an intimate experience, how she opens up her own practice for me to share. It’s like we’re back on a coaching call again.
Yes, sometimes even a coach needs a coach.
I called upon Gay last year when I wanted to revive my writing practice. I had more desire than direction, and she gently helped me tease apart the tangle of ideas and emotions.
I had already glimpsed Gay’s warmth and wisdom when I visited her at Family Circle magazine during a media tour I did in New York City several years back. She spent 25 years editing the top women’s magazines, including Rosie, McCalls, Ladies’ Home Journal, and Good Housekeeping, before turning toward coaching and her own writing. In February, she published The Hungry Ghost: How I Ditched 100 Pounds and Came Fully Alive, a self-help book based on her 100-pound weight loss.
Pushing too hard isn’t as effective as measured doses.
The best coaches are always learning, and always sharing their lessons learned. It’s my honor here to share just a tiny bit of what Gay has to offer. (And for more, join her FB group, “Writing for Love & Profit.”):
Favorite quote The only way out is through.
Best advice received My dad used to say, “I never met anybody I didn’t learn from.” He was so right. I never tire of hearing people’s stories. And people love it when you listen deeply to them, which makes for some lovely connection.
Best advice given Everything you need to achieve starts with self-care.
Can’t-resist indulgence Organic, fair-trade French roast decaf coffee.
Most recent accomplishment I just published my book The Hungry Ghost: How I Ditched 100 Pounds and Came Fully Alive. It’s about my recovery from food addiction, how I lost the weight 20 years ago, and what I learned that others can use.
Hardest lesson learned There is no magic to long-term weight loss, and no one can do it for me. I’ve kept the 100 pounds off by working at it every day. It got easier, but I have to be vigilant 24/7.
Life’s ambition To make the best possible use of the gifts I’ve been given. I’ve been given so much, I need and want to give back.
Most-used productivity app Setting small, manageable goals and rewarding myself for each one. Maybe a cup of tea, a quick call or email to a friend, or 10 minutes on Facebook. Pushing too hard isn’t as effective as measured doses.
Never-fail “power tool” A 30-minute power nap after lunch!
Next big goal New book, working title, The Well-Fed Ghost: Radical Self-Care, Extreme Self-Nurture for Your Hungry, Hungry Heart. 2015, here we come!